Growing up, “please” and “thank you” are commonly some of the first things that parents teach their children. No one aims to have rude, demanding children that aren’t grateful for anything they receive. I know personally that my mother still reminds me of it to this day when I slip up! (sorry mom :/) I think that these sayings can lose meaning the more often you say them – they become more of a habit rather than having true meaning behind it. By the time you get a little older, manners are second nature and seem to come out automatically, rather than thoughtfully.
At this point in my life, I have rediscovered how important it is to thank the people around you for everything that they do. Have you ever gone out of your way to complete a favor for one of your friends and then didn’t even get a “thank you” or “I appreciated it” in response? It’s not a very good feeling and it makes you question: did they actually appreciate what I did for them and forgot to mention it or were they just using me to get something done? As someone who always tries to see the positives in any situation, I tell myself oh, they must have just forgotten! They were in a hurry. But…. did they?
A goal of mine is to make sure that my friends and family know just how much I appreciate them and are thankful for every single thing they do for me, no matter how little or how small. If it’s my parents bringing a bin of food for me at college or my boyfriend buying me flowers or one of my friends sending me a nice text that makes my day, I want to be sure that they know I am super DUPER thankful that they are in my life. And when I say “thank you”, I say it with meaning so they have no doubt in their mind that they have a special place in my heart.
Do a little bit of self-reflection and decide whether you are content with how often and with how much meaning you say “thank you”. Are they just two little words you say just so you don’t sound rude, or are you fully, genuinely thanking and appreciating the person that did you a favor? Think about how it would feel in the situation to go out of your way, spend a little extra time or money – just to feel that it was a waste. Value the little things, always say your “thank you”s!!